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Saturday, May 17, 2008

Are we becoming "Those parents"...

So tonight we decided to go out to eat at Applebees. It was supposed to be fun and relaxing and a time to get out of the house. Well it was everything but that. Grant, whom I love dearly and would not change a thing about, decided that he was going to throw a tantrum about EVERYTHING!! I have no idea what he wanted to the entire time and he just kept making a scene yelling and screaming and basically throwing a tantrum. All around us were college kids on dates or newly married couples and I just couldn't help but think how I used to look at parents whose children acted this way in public. So I guess what I'm saying or rather asking myself is, "Am I becoming those parents?" You know the parents you see that look like they don't know what their doing and they give their kid anything just to please them? I do find it much easier just to give your kid what their yelling for just to save a scene and not have to deal with it. I mean at home I try to teach him not to do that or we will have to go to timeout, but what do you do when your out in public?

I guess what I'm trying to get out of this post is how do you deal with the typical one year old who can't verbalize what they want and if they don't get what they want they throw a tantrum? Grant is constantly throwing tantrums when we change his clothes, his diaper, put him in the highchair to eat, put his bib on, put his shoes on (or at least the ones he doesn't want to wear), get his haircut, see the doctor, put him in his car seat, and the list goes on and on. Is anyone else experiencing this new act of independence and rebellion with their child? Please assure me this is normal and that it's just a stage? I can get through it if its just a stage!

Now don't get me wrong. Grant is a very happy baby, sleeps through the night, and takes 2 great long naps, is very social, and is happy 80% of the time. He's wonderful. I see him progressing his verbal, mental, and social skills all the time. Like the other day, I was thinking to myself that I have never seen Grant actually "share" a toy with another baby. Well I swear that same day we were playing with his cousin, Tyler, and Grant actually handed Tyler his ball that he was playing with. Huge for us! So please tell me this is normal and that this will all be over someday:) Too much to ask for?

6 comments:

Ashley said...

I've been meaning to tell you this but I didn't know how, but....Drew and I were just saying "Audrey and Geoffery have become "those parents" and it is just a shame because we thought they were better than that!" :) Just kidding, of course! Anyone that can make a 14 month old be good all the time would probably earn a Nobel prize! It's a phase...don't stress!! He is so cute that I want to eat his little peach nose!! I love it!! Makes me want to have another one right now!! By the way I love the beach pictures and I am already strategizing what I can trade you for the tops you are wearing in the pictures!! SOOO cute!!! Your camera takes awesome pics too!!! Drew even said..."Wow, what kind of camera do they have?"...he is totally jealous!! I miss you and love you!! Check my blog later for more posts...the beach and other summer pics!!

Scott and Abby said...

Welcome the world of independent children! Just be consisent and he will start to understand, eventually. ;) We have good days and very bad days. We love him!!

Anonymous said...

Well from what you are telling us you really need to discipline in a different manner. "Spanking" You don't have to beat your child, just a little slap on the leg will do the trick! GOOD LUCK!!!

Rachel Hunter said...

oh i'm definitely one of those parents! Hannah throws fits like that everyday! isn't it fun??

Spencer and Erin said...

Audrey! Um remember how we used to be freshman neighbors. I have no clue how I found your blog but you and your family are so cute!!!! YOur little guys is so cute!! How is life treating you these days??

Yvonne said...

Audrey,
don't know if you remember me but I lived in your neighborhood in Quailbluff. Found your blog by mistake. Good to see a fimilar face. Don't know if you want real advice to your post, but here are a few suggestions to try. My sone is 20 months old and has a very independent personality. He is just now becoming more verbal. Late talker, but we have been doing baby sign language with him for months. Actually I showed him one sign and he just took off with it. But we have found that it helps him to verbalize himself. Along with that if you can figure out maybe what they want and talk to them about it, it helps. I mean for example, when their throwing a fit because they can't have the crayons because they were writing on the wall, then say "I know you want the crayons, but you can't have them, we can't write on the wall". I don't know if that make sense, but it helps for them to know that you are acknowledging their feelings. I hope this helps, all kids are different,what works for mine might not for yours, but good luck.